Rule 10: You Will Forget All This

YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS

Relationships

 

One of the quickest ways to reduce stress is to understand your priorities. While accomplishment of goals is satisfying, it is the people along the way and your relationships with them that remain at the end of the day or at the end of a life well­ lived.

The following chart is for you to recognize the people most important in your life. More than any other exercise, this was the one that made people draw in their breath. It would catch in their throats, only to be exhaled on a long outgoing breath.

Using a piece of paper, beginning on the first line, write your name, your age in 2014, your age in 2019, 2024, 2029. Under your name, begin listing the people you love, the ones who are important to you and their ages across the board.

 

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NAME 2014 2019 2024 2029

It is important to do this exercise every six months to one year. As you grow and change, so do your relationships and their importance to you.

Once you have filled out this chart, take a good look. Are you shocked at how fast time flies? You have written down the names of the people most important to you. These could include grand-parents, parents, children, friends, etc.

When was the last time you spent one entire day with them? Talked with them, face to face, with no distractions, no television or stereo in the background? Do you know them anymore? Do they know you? This chart represents a mere 15 year span. Once a certain age is reached, holidays such as Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, etc., no longer mean just simply the giving and receiving of gifts. It is the gathering of friends and family or the lack of such gathering that holds meaning in our life.

One of the themes of this Workbook is life is not a dress rehearsal. Without knowledge of what and whom you truly value, cherish and care for, the years go by without enrichment and there comes a day when you wake up wondering why you are working so hard for so little. You are urged to take this exercise seriously as there are no guarantees that these people will be there when you finally make the time or they finally make the time for you.

12 thoughts on “Rule 10: You Will Forget All This

  1. Thank you for that always-important reminder.
    I have iron-clad standing appointments with my family in California, but I need to pay better attention to my local friends.

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    • I’m watching all of us missing out on this, Maggs. Between email and 140 keystroke limitations, what makes friendship so special is being iced out in favor of speed. Yuck. I have one friend that every 2 years – maybe 3 – we meet halfway in Oregon for a three day weekend. What a difference this has made for us, even though we talk on the phone a lot. 🙂

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    • So glad I emailed you privately and found out what this means, M.R. – so glad you are doing well and it is just choice re number of friends. You wrote a book in honor of your soul mate, so you’ve done your job. xxoo Huntie

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  2. Hunt, What a wonderful exercise, I do wish I had seen it 5 or 10 years or even longer ago, because I am sure the progressions of frendships and the need to have individuals, certian individuals, in my life has shifted has moved significantly. I know for me expecially over the last couple years I have had people come into my life my environment that I wish I had the opporttunity to have known for years and years. But I have to steal from M-R and would go along with this if I were living a normal life. Take care, Bill

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    • Bill, you are so kind and generous. I thought of you and flinched when I hit publish because I know how you are making the most of time and love, especially being so generous with your blogger friends. Big hug – visualize me standing on a chair to give one! Huntie ❤

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  3. When I was working, I did an evaluation by myself regarding what new I had accomplished, learned, wanted/needed to learn etc. It kept me aware and ready for the next step.
    I see the value of this exercise as similar to keeping on top of family and friendships. An excellent ‘spreadsheet’. 🙂 (I love those)

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    • Tess, in my manual, this came with actual lines, but the Word Press defeated me and I just refused to waste time putting in the lines…. I figured everybody could create their own. This is enormously impactful when done. I do hope people will actually do it, rather than nod and file it away. Grin. Huntie 🙂

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  4. I will have to try this Huntie, but I think I will just start with a 5 or 10 year chart for now. I know I don’t make enough time for the people in my life & this is a good reminder for me to pull myself up by my bootstraps!

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